DEAR CONFUSED: It’s possible that this is a subconscious compulsion on her end, and bringing it to her attention will be all it takes to fix it. It’s also possible that she is on the fence about a serious commitment. Either way, you need to initiate a conversation to get to the bottom of it.

I’ve been thinking about asking her to move in with me but I have one big concern. Every time we run into somebody we know in the town where we live, she stops holding my hand before I introduce her as my girlfriend. After chatting with the person, we start walking toward our destination, and she quickly begins holding my hand again.

I’ve been thinking about asking her to move in with me but I have one big concern. After chatting with the person, we start walking toward our destination, and she quickly begins holding my hand again.